Tony Blair’s sister in law’s conversion to Islam. Now what?

Lauren Booth, Cherie Blair’s sister and Tony Blair’s sister in law converted to Islam a few days ago. Where I am concerned, it’s just one of the many thousands of transitions that take place every year. The significance of this is that the person in question is a well-known figure, and sister in law to a man oft repeated in political circles in the new millennium, Labour’s most successful leader and apart from the Iraq war and a few other mishaps a man who brought a lot of constructive changes to British society.

The Islamophobic right wing press and some feminists will have to eat their own words due to this rather unexpected phenomenon.

Cherie Blair herself has immediately changed her stance about Muslim women, as today’s Evening Standard reports here.

Lauren Booth has written a wonderful piece on the Guardian about her conversion, the press and stereotypes. I am copying it here.

The reader is neither obliged to agree or to disagree, but definitely well worth a read.

It is five years since my first visit to Palestine. And when I arrived in the region, to work alongside charities in Gaza and the West Bank, I took with me the swagger of condescension that all white middle-class women (secretly or outwardly) hold towards poor Muslim women, women I presumed would be little more than black-robed blobs, silent in my peripheral vision. As a western woman with all my freedoms, I expected to deal professionally with men alone. After all, that’s what the Muslim world is all about, right?

This week’s screams of faux horror from fellow columnists on hearing of my conversion to Islam prove that this remains the stereotypical view regarding half a billion women currently practising Islam.

On my first trip to Ramallah, and many subsequent visits to Palestine, Egypt, Jordan and Lebanon, I did indeed deal with men in power. And, dear reader, one or two of them even had those scary beards we see on news bulletins from far-flung places we’ve bombed to smithereens. Surprisingly (for me) I also began to deal with a lot of women of all ages, in all manner of head coverings, who also held positions of power. Believe it or not, Muslim women can be educated, work the same deadly hours we do, and even boss their husbands about in front of his friends until he leaves the room in a huff to go and finish making the dinner.

Is this patronising enough for you? I do hope so, because my conversion to Islam has been an excuse for sarcastic commentators to heap such patronising points of view on to Muslim women everywhere. So much so, that on my way to a meeting on the subject of Islamophobia in the media this week, I seriously considered buying myself a hook and posing as Abu Hamza. After all, judging by the reaction of many women columnists, I am now to women’s rights what the hooked one is to knife and fork sales.

So let’s all just take a deep breath and I’ll give you a glimpse into the other world of Islam in the 21st century. Of course, we cannot discount the appalling way women are mistreated by men in many cities and cultures, both with and without an Islamic population. Women who are being abused by male relatives are being abused by men, not God. Much of the practices and laws in “Islamic” countries have deviated from (or are totally unrelated) to the origins of Islam. Instead practices are based on cultural or traditional (and yes, male-orientated) customs that have been injected into these societies. For example, in Saudi Arabia, women are not allowed to drive by law. This rule is an invention of the Saudi monarchy, our government’s close ally in the arms and oil trade. The fight for women’s rights must sadly adjust to our own government’s needs.

My own path to Islam began with an awakening to the gap between what had been drip-fed to me about all Muslim life – and the reality.

I began to wonder about the calmness exuded by so many of the “sisters” and “brothers”. Not all; these are human beings we’re talking about. But many. And on my visit to Iran this September, the washing, kneeling, chanting recitations of the prayers at the mosques I visited reminded me of the west’s view of an entirely different religion; one that is known for eschewing violence and embracing peace and love through quiet meditation. A religion trendy with movie stars such as Richard Gere, and one that would have been much easier to admit to following in public – Buddhism. Indeed, the bending, kneeling and submission of Muslim prayers resound with words of peace and contentment. Each one begins, “Bismillahir rahmaneer Raheem” – “In the name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate” – and ends with the phrase “Assalamu Alaykhum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh” – Peace be upon you all and God’s mercy and blessing.

Almost unnoticed to me, when praying for the last year or so, I had been saying “Dear Allah” instead of “Dear God”. They both mean the same thing, of course, but for the convert to Islam the very alien nature of the language of the holy prayers and the holy book can be a stumbling block. I had skipped that hurdle without noticing. Then came the pull: a sort of emotional ebb and flow that responds to the company of other Muslims with a heightened feeling of openness and warmth. Well, that’s how it was for me, anyway.

How hard and callous non-Muslim friends and colleagues began to seem. Why can’t we cry in public, hug one another more, say “I love you” to a new friend, without facing suspicion or ridicule? I would watch emotions being shared in households along with trays of honeyed sweets and wondered, if Allah’s law is simply based on fear why did the friends I loved and respected not turn their backs on their practices and start to drink, to have real “fun” as we in the west do? And we do, don’t we? Don’t we?

Finally, I felt what Muslims feel when they are in true prayer: a bolt of sweet harmony, a shudder of joy in which I was grateful for everything I have (my children) and secure in the certainty that I need nothing more (along with prayer) to be utterly content. I prayed in the Mesumeh shrine in Iran after ritually cleansing my forearms, face, head and feet with water. And nothing could be the same again. It was as simple as that.

The sheikh who finally converted me at a mosque in London a few weeks ago told me: “Don’t hurry, Lauren. Just take it easy. Allah is waiting for you. Ignore those who tell you: you must do this, wear that, have your hair like this. Follow your instincts, follow the Holy Qur’an- and let Allah guide you.”

And so I now live in a reality that is not unlike that of Jim Carey’s character in the Truman Show. I have glimpsed the great lie that is the facade of our modern lives; that materialism, consumerism, sex and drugs will give us lasting happiness. But I have also peeked behind the screens and seen an enchanting, enriched existence of love, peace and hope. In the meantime, I carry on with daily life, cooking dinners, making TV programmes about Palestine and yes, praying for around half an hour a day.

Now, my morning starts with dawn prayers at around 6am, I pray again at 1.30pm, then finally at 10.30pm. My steady progress with the Qur’an has been mocked in some quarters (for the record, I’m now around 200 pages in). I’ve been seeking advice from Ayatollahs, imams and sheikhs, and every one has said that each individual’s journey to Islam is their own. Some do commit the entire text to memory before conversion; for me reading the holy book will be done slowly and at my own pace.

In the past my attempts to give up alcohol have come to nothing; since my conversion I can’t even imagine drinking again. I have no doubt that this is for life: there is so much in Islam to learn and enjoy and admire; I’m overcome with the wonder of it. In the last few days I’ve heard from other women converts, and they have told me that this is just the start, that they are still loving it 10 or 20 years on.

On a final note I’d like to offer a quick translation between Muslim culture and media culture that may help take the sting of shock out of my change of life for some of you.

When Muslims on the BBC News are shown shouting “Allahu Akhbar!” at some clear, Middle Eastern sky, we westerners have been trained to hear: “We hate you all in your British sitting rooms, and are on our way to blow ourselves up in Lidl when you are buying your weekly groceries.”

In fact, what we Muslims are saying is “God is Great!”, and we’re taking comfort in our grief after non-Muslim nations have attacked our villages. Normally, this phrase proclaims our wish to live in peace with our neighbours, our God, our fellow humans, both Muslim and non-Muslim. Or, failing that, in the current climate, just to be left to live in peace would be nice.



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6 responses to “Tony Blair’s sister in law’s conversion to Islam. Now what?

  1. Dee

    Good article. Without politicizing and implying anything on her conversion, I am happy she realized how degraded western values are. I'm glad she realized the reality and core of Islam, which is brotherhood and love to all. Maybe she'll actually convince a few westerners that the majority of Muslims are not living in caves and plotting to blow up things. Just because she dons a scarf and changes her name may just be a social appearance, but inside, maybe she's just become even closer to God; God in all forms and perceptions.

  2. Good post, interesting thoughts. I really agree with emotions being held back. Cheers!

  3. T

    It's a well written article, but the question for me is all in the interpretation. how do you differentiate between what is written and what is practiced? The interpretation of a faith differs for each individual, and in this context, how can any religion be considered peaceful these days?Also, what can be considered women's rights under Islamic law? She points out a valid fact about how "free" women consider muslim women with a certain kind of condescension, and there is the general misconception about the hijab, but the fact remains that the rules are not the same for men and women under Islamic law, not just different rules but unequal rules. And before you ask, no I have not read the Quran so my opinions are based entirely upon what i have read, conversations with muslims and my own experiences in a middle eastern country.

  4. Even a single person recognizing another as a human being can do wonders to this world. It is even better when the fact is published, perhaps another will see the light. Thank you for the post.

  5. Dee – Thanks for the Comment. Indeed, the problem here is not about people being religious. If everyone was indeed religious, there would be little conflict as one religion doesn't order its followers to cause harm to another. What does create issues is when human ideals perceive another's way of life as a threat, they find a place to attack and it so happens that religion is the scapegoat. Me-Shak – Indeed!, cheers mate. T – Cheers for the comment. Islam is different from other religions in that 'What is written' is not the only thing that stands, there are many other ramifications to Islamic jurisprudence that give a verdict as to what is permissible and what is not, and even amongst Muslims one thing that is applicable to one may not be applicable to the other.Example, it may be a compulsory obligation for Muslims in an Islamic state (Saudi or wherever) to go to the mosque for prayer for all five times. But it may not be so for a Muslims living in Britain, because Muslims living in Britain live as a minority community and what applies to them is what's called 'fiqh ul aqalliyad', or jurisprudence for Muslims living as a minority. Thus, a lot of things have to be taken into consideration.With regards to what is practised and what is written, I must admit that in many parts of the Muslim world unfortunately culture has mixed with religious norms. That is why you tend to see Muslim women in Pakistan to have a different standard to the Muslim women living in the west. When you ask 'What can be considered women’s rights under Islamic law' it is as arbitrary (no less valid, but arbitrary) as saying 'what can be considered men’s rights under Islamic law'. If a context is given I will attempt to respond.One of the best texts I have come across about Islamic law is the book written by Sri Lanka’s own Justice C.G.Weeramantry, former vice president of the ICJ at the Hague who wrote his book 'Islamic Jurisprudence: An International Perspective', well worth a read if you wish to answer your concerns about Islamic law and women's rights, or lack thereof. I understand your concerns, and appreciate that they stem from what you read and personal conversations.But, we must bear one thing in mind. You and I grew up in Sri Lanka, where there is some sort of moral fabric in place – religious or otherwise. The likes of Yvonne Ridley, Lauren Booth and Cat Stevens, the latter more than the former have seen the very extremes of the other side – sex, drugs and rock n roll. These people have seen/suffered the consequences of the other side that which we all aspire to see. And having gone all the way, they realise that all associated materialistic notions which you and I pursue don't really give the inner peace and tranquillity that a human needs to be in. And these people who have seen all that realise that what Islam offers is what they need to live peaceful content lives and they turn to it, after trying out many other different faiths. I am not an Islamic scholar, nor have I studied Islam outside what was taught at school. Whatever I say now is just from my additional reading, so there may be ambiguities – but you are most welcome to query if you wish to and I will attempt to respond. Magerata – Surely! Thanks for dropping by.

  6. Also, more than 50% of people converting to Islam in Europe or elsewhere are women. Point to ponder.

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