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No Woman, No Drive – Marley

Why Saudi women must not be allowed to drive.

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Of Cricket and Rape


On the day that it was announced that Sachin Tendulkar had retired from one day international Cricket, a friend had the following as her facebook status –

I can’t believe it. This news presenter just said although everyone was saddened by the recent rape case in Delhi, that nothing could match the sadness people are feeling over Tendulkar’s retirement! Do these people not think before they speak???

It is not a matter of thinking before one speaks; it goes on to reflect the state of mind and the order of priorities of many people. It staggers me that a country such as India which shows such reverence to basic societal facets like motherhood can simultaneously treat women with such disdain. Perhaps what the news presenter allegedly said is sincere and genuine. If an Indian Cricketer died today would there be the same amount of emotions running raw in India as it does now? It is likely not to be for the emotions would be much higher, the news of the death of a celebrated Cricketer would sell much more than the death of a rape victim. Sadly, the Cricketer is seen as speaking for many whilst transcending gender boundaries and the rape victim dies relatively alone.

My facebook and twitter feeds have been dominated by news of the deaths of two individuals this morning. One is of the victim of the afore mentioned rape, the other is of English Cricketer turned commentator Tony Greig. Tony died of natural causes and I sincerely do grieve his death, for he amplified the little squeaks Sri Lankan Cricket was making as it began to come of age in the Benson and Hedges cup in Australia in 1995/96.

But here lies the problem, the media space given to the rape victim by one’s own initiative is marginal compared to what I see on Cricket related matters. Further, whilst the death of Tony Greig seems to have united the genders, the cause of the rape victim and that of rape rather regrettably seems to be espoused only by females. Though I am sure there are men who had expressed their sympathy, I am yet to see one.

I tread carefully here. What affects women, has an affect on men. As clichéd a statement as this may be, a woman is a mother, wife, sister or a friend of a man and the converse is true for women. But as the gulf between men and women increase and modern societal doctrine tends to empower any one gender without reference to the other without regulation, where mutuality and co-existence between genders is a thing of the past, then both genders will be in a race to be superior to the other and this is harmful to women as it is to men. As it stands, yes there is an imbalance in modern society and men largely consider their gender to be superior to that of women, and that is reflected in some of the ills in this world. I have no time for such men in the same way that I have no time for women who consider their gender to be superior to that of men.

It so happens that most evils committed today happen to be committed by men. Even though I partially agree with this post and the actions described, marginalising men as a whole is detrimental to the cause. I hate to revere Cricket by this analogy, but just like sub continental Cricket, issues of women (and men) are best resolved when it galvanises both genders, not just one.

Image from here.


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A ship is called a she because –

I was going through some of my old posts in my other blog and I came across this! I still think it’s hilarious and was worth a post in this blog. Read full post here.


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On speaking in Sinhala, and things going wrong..

Most of us are bilingual and some of us are tri-lingual. I find it extremely satisfying that i am trilingual.But being multi lingual has its disadvantages too, like speaking one language in another language’s context. One little boy i met once at a childrens camp, on seeing that i was playing around with my camera kept telling me “touch my photo, touch my photo”, obviously i was confused, until his English teacher told me that the boy had translated the sinhala “magey photo ekak allanna” as “touch my photo in English. Not many multi-linguals are exempt of this natural slight mix up.


I remembered an incident when i saw this post.One of my Sinhalese friends was once copped for speeding and his licence was confiscated by the traffic police. So, as is the norm he had to go to the police station in Colombo fort, collect a dhada kolaya (err crudely translated – fine sheet) go to the nearest Bank of Ceylon to pay the fine and come back to the police station to get another document, producing which he can retrieve his licence.

When he got his fine sheet there was a male police officer, and my friend had addressed him as Raala Hami as policemen are called and had done the needful.

But when he came to the police station for the second time, there happened to be a female police office at the counter. And my friend who being sinhalese and someone who is very good in his colloquial sinhalese walked to the counter with his usual unconsciously confident aura around him.

On seeing a female there he was a bit disturbed as he didnt know what she should be called, not knowing the feminine of Raala-Haami and clearly desperate, he had addressed her as Raala-Haamine (Haminey means wife..usually) and the police office obviously amused had said “malli danne neththang mukuth nokiya inna” 🙂


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